The colour purple… It can be referred to as a colour suggesting royalty or an awarding winning movie. There can be beautiful pictures, paintings and drawings of flowers and sunsets that blend the colour purple making something amazing for us to look at. Unfortunately, all things purple are not as beautiful. The blending of yellows, greens, blues and purples that are not colouring a canvas are being imprinted upon bodies… The bodies of women! This is the canvas of choice by those who abuse women through acts of violence.
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence has some facts that we ALL should be aware of… While these are just a few stats (which I focused around women), the link I will provide has MANY IMPORTANT facts that should be read.
-Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten
-1 in 3 women have been physically abused by an intimate partner
-1 in 7 women have been stalked. Stalking causes the target to fear she/he or someone close to her/him will be harmed or killed
-Domestic violence is most common among women between the ages of 18-24
The statistic above are only from the United States, imagine just how many more women are victims of abuse world-wide? There are some who will argue that it is tradition, beliefs or custom that justify this treatment of women. While I cannot judge ones beliefs, customs or traditions… I can ask this question; If it was tradition, belief or custom for a man to be treated in the same way that women are abused… Would you not want it stopped?
For some males, it is about power. They are threatened by the presence of a woman who has her own mind and does not need a man to control her life. The abuse can start at early ages and manifest into what a woman will perceive as “the norm.” For violence against women, there should never be a feeling of normalcy. We should ALL do our best to ensure that equality, respect and non-violence should be “the norm.”
There are some things we can do to help those who are victims of violence; support groups, telephone hotlines, counselors and sometimes just being there to listen. One of the most important things we can do is let the women in our lives, especially the youth know that violence is NOT acceptable! Not at ANY time, nor ANY age! We need to empower and support women, letting them know they are WORTHY of better treatment. Men will tell them that they are worthless, nobody else will want or have them, nobody will treat them better… It is EXTREMELY important to convince women ALL over and of ALL ages that these are LIES! They are simply a means to control them mentally, through their fears and insecurities. When that doesn’t work, it will turn physical and more dangerous for the women. The key is to allow women around the world to recognize the signs early and find the strength to get out of the toxic relationship before it is too late.
It doesn’t take a man to hit a woman, it takes a man to treat a woman properly. As men, it is up to us to teach our youth that respect for woman is vital. “Women are not the weaker sex, they are the equal sex!” (My personal quote) The mindset must be changed, through education and application we can help make a difference. In life there are those who wish they could make a difference. Then there are those who decide they can be the difference! Who are you?
It is important to note that domestic violence is a dangerous situation! When you witness it, the best solution is to notify the police immediately.